I also don’t think a woman needs to be open to every man who is interested in her, and with someone of Michaela’s beauty level I don’t get the point. Maybe less attractive women and women who don’t get approached much should be more open and possibly women who are not getting the results they want, but otherwise you can and probably should be choosy. It’s interesting that Michaela thinks that way and it’s probably something that should give men a lot of hope that a very beautiful woman has that kind of mentality (because men tend to think the most beautiful women won’t give them the time of day). But I think, in general there are a lot of good reasons for women to be discriminating with men.
Like two sick people needing each other to get by, enabling each others weakness because of fear of self refecltion then calling that complimentary.
So much, the thought of dabbling in this dysfunction leaves me to withdrawal from the whole mess of relationships
I just don’t understand. However, i love everyone; truly in my heart I care deeply about the world so…i…i know that someone is out there that has the balance I’m looking for between self reliance and compatibility. I hesitate because I know that day might not come but I know I’d rather not be in a “dysfunctional” relationship then be in a relationship at all.
Recently while “scouting” introvert sites, I realized that I’ve had a pattern of attraction to and have dated many introverted guys. My most recent “muse”, is an introverted gentleman that attends my place of worship. He has a quiet, yet sophisticated awkwardness that I’m drawn to. I realized that he’s talkative when one on one with me. He seems to come out his comfort zone to get my attention at times. He gives genuine compliments and he’s very thoughtful. The discovery of his beautiful qualities makes me antsy because I want to get to know him but he’s not making a move! help!!L
He won’t. He needs a lot of time =/ For me its like a month minimum… But extroverted people want to be everything fast ?? I also had this experience once… i am very introverted guy, really enjoyed one womans company, but could not even talk about my feeling in a crowd, way TOOOO many toughts. so it kinda ended, i think or i don’t know.
Michaela telling an outgoing extroverted woman not to pursue an introverted man she is interested in, is very bad advice ( I say this with genuine sincerety so no disrespect to you Michaela , I am just telling the way it is). I am an extreme introverted man whom was pursued by my current girlfriend who is a happy https://lovingwomen.org/tr/blog/japon-bir-kadinla-evlen/ go luck, outgoing extreme firecracker of an extrovert (I am strongly and deeply attracted to this type of extroverted woman) so I know this from experience. I am not saying this just to be a rude a-hole!
So then Michael, since you welcomed your GF reaching out, how do you navigate your courtship. Does she plan your get togethers? How do you work out the finances for dating if she suggests an activity and you participate? What decade age wise are you both? Thanks
I chuckled when I read this: “Introverted men love deeply from the head (by giving complements that sound a bit like objective evaluations)” because it brought back so many memories of introverted boyfriends complimenting in that exact way
As an introverted guy, I can tell you that most of the time if you follow this, you’ll end up losing our respect and we’ll move on faster than you can think. We hate games. We hate lack of communication and openness. We value honesty and genuineness. And we’re very strong individuals in the inside who appreciate a softer approach. Whatever game you play on a typical extroverted man won’t work on us. We don’t need validation. So we won’t pursue anyone to get it. If we’re interested, we’ll let you know mostly through our actions. We don’t play games (most of us).
Also, as an introvert, I don’t mind being pursued, as long as it’s by a woman I like and she’s not going overboard.